Sometimes just being in a swingers club is enough to throw people off their game. Some will have this perception that sex is the only thing of interest to the people inside. So, instead of trying to get to know others, the conversation will go something like this, “Hi, my name is so and so, I’ve been told I’m great at pleasing women. I would love to please you.” I just want to say, “are you kidding me?!” The first thing I try to tell new people is our club is no different than any other place you meet new people. Just relax and get to know everyone. Swingers are members of society. They have families, jobs, goals, car problems, and family issues. The one difference is they have decided to enhance their union through playing with others. To me, the friendships gained through these conversations have been at times just as inspiring and enhancing as the sex.